I have a lot of pet peeves, but I was reminded of a big one yesterday… I find it so offensive when people greet you with a comment about your “weight”.
Examples below;
“You look like you’ve lost weight”.
Or
“You look different, have you slimmed down?”
“Wow, you’ve dropped some pounds haven’t you?”
“You can see your waist!”
And then, this is the WORST…
“You look so good now!”.
Whenever I am greeted with one of these or something similar, I immediately think to myself; oh, did I look fat before? Was I an ugly beast before? Did I look like Jabba The Hutts daughter last time you saw me?!?
WHAT THE ACTUAL F?!
Since when did it become acceptable or kind to greet someone, a person who may or may not have suffered with body issues, someone who is secretly struggling with a low self-esteem or even may have had an eating disorder once in their lives, with words like these?
The only time it doesn’t bother me is when it’s from my best friend or someone who I have brought up the discussion of trying to lose weight with. But when it’s from a cousin twice removed, it is not ok.
Female or Male- it is NOT ok!
Gender is irrelevant regarding this matter!
When I was teaching fitness I was hit by a car and unable to walk, so I gained back some of my weight. Then when I was finally able to run again “I dropped a few pounds”. There was one woman who would occasionally show up to my classes who would immediately make a bee line for me to comment on how good I looked “now”. It wasn’t a throw a way comment, she made a big deal of repeating it over and over again. This woman was so New York-in the 90’s- thin, that she had previously complained of neck ache because her tiny and frail body couldn’t support her giant head. So I’m guessing being so skinny to the point that your body weight can’t even hold your own head was very important to her. But just because it’s a priority for her, doesn’t mean it’s a priority for the rest of us.
Rant over, time for the advice.
Here’s how you can greet someone who’s appearance has changed since you last saw them (if you truly feel the need to comment on it at all).
“You look great”.
“You look beautiful as always”.
“You look fit and strong- gorgeous as always!”.
Or something along these lines.
You get the gist and there you have it. A simple bit of advice to be kinder if you really have to comment on someone else’s weight.
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And remember most people who comment in a harmful way is usually something to do with them, their own hangups. It’s something that is going on in their lives. Nothing to do with you. You are beautiful (and if you need a reminder of that, then be sure to read The Unicorn Diet!)
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The Bimbo in Limbo xxxx
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Comments are closed.Needful content. Keep creating content like this! Tons of love for you
Barshan thank you! I am so happy to have found your blog too. Without your posts I would never get to share my thoughts!
It’s so sad in our society how outward looks are so important to so many. It has NOTHING to do with the beautiful soul inside! I recall my mother always commenting on other people’s weight and it used to make me so angry! What’s on the inside is what is important!!!